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Who said chivalry was dead?

I know it's out there.

So, my best friend has a new guy, (if you are reading this, well congratulations, you're gonna be famous kid), and it makes me question a lot about everything between me and her. Not in a bad sense, but more like an observation of our relationship over the past few years. Now that I am getting a feel for where exactly this is going, this a post about love and friendship. I met my best friend when I was fifteen years old, and even though we both have a little bit of dude in us and we don't share sappy stuff, I feel like one of the luckiest people alive to have the kind of friendship we have. I know, I hardly ever say this kind of stuff out loud (if a blog counts for that matter), but it is true. How does this tie into love? Well two ways. One, most people spend their entire life looking for things that complete them, like a soul mate and all, and they don't even take the time to have a real friendship. Friends are expendable, and I know in the case of women, it is so easy to let go of other people when you have finally met "the one". What happens though, when "the one" doesn't turn out to be who you expected him to be? It leaves you alone, with no one to go to except for your parents or other family members, and in my case, I just don't want to share those kinds of feelings with them sometimes. This may sound so juvenile, but I know it is different for me, because everything that I have been through, no matter how weird or scary or whatever it was, I always had her behind me. We have both been in relationships while we were friends, and even though there were some in there that could have easily led us apart, they didn't. We made the time, we made the effort, because I knew deep down that the only person I trusted apart from myself was not my boyfriend at the time, it was her. And you know what? When we broke up, who was there to pick up the pieces? She was. I didn't have to do anything alone, because she was there, no matter how messy or totally stupid I was being. And to this day, nothing has changed from the minute that we started hanging out, since I had a crazy feeling she would be there if I needed her, even all the way back then...

So now that we have been over that part, let's get to the second.

We both say that when we find the guy that reminds us of each other, then they are going to be someone significant. Now, I feel like this is an excellent philosophy, if I do say so myself, because what is the most significant law of being in a successful, long-term relationship?  It's that that person should be your best friend. Since we have the cheat-sheet of knowing what kind of person could be our best friend, we might as well use it. The relationships come and go, and in the end, when we are talking about a break up or whatever, the statements always go something like this, "Well, I didn't want to tell you then, but I really didn't like your boyfriend" or "Now that I think about it, he was nothing like you either". But you know what she told me the other day, all excitedly over the phone? She told me that this guy thought in colors, which by weird coincidence, is a psychological "disorder" her boyfriend and I both share. He is the first other person who I know about that has it. Weird, huh? I want her to find someone, and based on what I have been hearing, this guy is chivalrous in all the right ways, and even though this never changes, I am so incredibly happy for her and I want everything to go for the best. And of course, when the time comes for me, she'll be there to cheer me on too. Friendships evolve, and even though I will be watching her get married one day to one of the most important best friends of her lifetime, we will always have our deal, and that will never change no matter what.

So...don't let go of the people who really matter. When you find them, you'll know who they are.

And if you still think chivalry is dead, just find another way to look at it.

That's it for now.